In the world of sexual exploration, new techniques and terms frequently emerge, capturing attention and curiosity. The latest trend, known as “shallowing,” has stirred up plenty of conversation and intrigue. But what exactly is shallowing? Is it truly as pleasure-inducing as people claim? Let’s dive in to understand this new buzzworthy practice.

What Is Shallowing?

Despite its newfound popularity, “shallowing” isn’t a particularly new concept. It was only formally named about two years ago, but it’s a technique that many are already practicing without even realizing it. In a recent survey covering thousands of women worldwide, roughly six out of seven respondents reported that they already use this technique to enhance their sexual experiences. Simply put, it involves focusing penetrative touch primarily on the vaginal entrance and just slightly inside, rather than deeper penetration.

The Technique Behind Shallowing

The term “shallowing” is quite descriptive. It encourages a shallow approach, whether using fingers, toys, a partner’s penis, or other forms of touch. The focus is on stimulating the vaginal opening and the surrounding area rather than penetrating deeply. According to Cecile Gasnault, brand director of sex toy company SmileMakers, many people may already know the sensation of pleasure created when the head of the penis, a toy, or fingers applies pressure at the vaginal entrance. For shallowing, Gasnault explains, “the idea is to go in only by a few centimeters.” This approach offers a refreshing reminder that, for some, less can be much more.

The Science Behind Shallowing

There’s a growing scientific basis to support the effectiveness of shallowing in creating pleasurable experiences. Though much of the focus in sexual discussions is on clitoral stimulation, the vulva (the external female genitalia) also plays a significant role in pleasure. Gasnault points out that the vulva is packed with nerve endings — an estimated 90 percent of the nerve endings in the vaginal area reside there. To offer a comparison for those with male anatomy, the vulva’s sensitivity can be compared to the scrotum’s sensitivity. Just as touching the scrotum can produce intense sensations, stimulating the vulva can create a similar effect, making shallowing an especially enjoyable technique for many.

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Building Intimacy and Awareness

One of the advantages of shallowing is that it encourages a more mindful approach to sexual activity. Marla Renee Stewart, a sexologist and sexual wellness expert, highlights that shallowing is a fantastic way to become more aware of nerve endings and bodily responses. By focusing on these specific areas and sensations, individuals and couples can deepen their connection and learn more about what feels pleasurable in a more nuanced way.

The Benefits Beyond Physical Sensation

Shallowing offers more than just physical pleasure; it can be beneficial in various scenarios, according to sex therapist Chanta Blue. For individuals who find deeper penetration uncomfortable or unenjoyable, shallowing provides an alternative that still allows for sexual connection and pleasure. The technique can also build anticipation and excitement, enhancing the overall sexual experience without the need for full penetration.

Should You Try Shallowing?

If the idea of shallowing sounds appealing, consider giving it a try. Experimenting with this technique can add a new layer to solo or partnered experiences, focusing on areas rich in nerve endings and often overlooked in traditional approaches. Of course, like with any sexual technique, it’s all about personal preference. Some may find shallowing incredibly enjoyable, while others may prefer different forms of stimulation.

The Takeaway: Exploring Shallowing on Your Own Terms

The excitement around shallowing speaks to a broader shift toward understanding and appreciating diverse paths to pleasure. By shifting focus to the external areas and practicing shallowing with mindfulness, couples and individuals can experience a new dimension of connection and satisfaction. So go ahead, explore shallowing if it sounds intriguing — or don’t, if it’s not for you. Ultimately, the key to satisfaction is discovering what truly brings you pleasure.

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Mindful Sex

Mindfulness, the practice of staying present with awareness, aligns beautifully with sexual intimacy. Mindful, or even Tantric, sex allows us to form a deep, meaningful connection with ourselves and others, an antidote to the often isolating, fast-paced, tech-driven world. Mindful sex and mindful self-pleasure are rapidly gaining popularity.

“Mindful sex is about being present and savoring each sensation, rather than focusing on climax,” says intimacy coach Elisa Caro. “It’s a slower, more conscious experience, almost like meditation.” And studies even show that mindfulness practices like meditation can improve sexual function—another reason these two fit so well together.

Gooning

Gooning, described as reaching heightened pleasure through sensory overload and a near-trance state, is set to be a big trend in 2024. According to The Sun, interest in gooning surged by 778% in 2023, signaling our desire for prolonged pleasure. Techniques involve sensory play, like blindfolds or edging (keeping arousal high without climaxing), to reach a hypnotic, deeply pleasurable state. Prolonging the build-up to orgasm isn’t just about ecstasy; it may even address issues like premature climax.

Thirst Traps

Posting “thirst traps”—provocative photos to gain attention and validation—continues to thrive on social media. Originally popularized by celebs like Emily Ratajkowski, these posts invite viewers’ “thirst” or desire, regardless of gender. Some see it as a confidence boost or a way to explore sexuality; others view it as empowering, especially for those who feel traditionally sidelined. Embracing a thirst trap moment can be a fun, expressive way to feel empowered.

Throuples

Younger generations are increasingly open to non-traditional relationships, and throuples, or ethical love triangles, are on the rise. Unlike a threesome, a throuple is a committed relationship among three people. The combination could be two men and a woman, two women and a man, or any gender mix that works for everyone involved. Public figures like Bella Thorne have helped normalize this relationship dynamic, making it more visible and accepted.

Erotic Playlists

Northwestern University research indicates that rhythm is key to sexual pleasure, and a well-chosen playlist can help sync that rhythm. Music stimulates pleasure centers in the brain and can enhance shared intimacy, adding depth to the experience. The research even pinpointed 119 beats per minute as the ideal tempo for maximizing pleasure—so finding a playlist with the right groove may just elevate the journey to new heights.

Shibari

Japanese rope bondage, or Shibari, has become more mainstream in recent years. This form of bondage combines artistry, sensory stimulation, and trust within consensual BDSM. In Shibari, one person ties intricate knots on another, creating a mix of power dynamics and vulnerability that appeals to many seeking both aesthetic and sensual experience. Safety and consent are paramount in this practice, which allows people to explore roles of dominance and submission in a unique and deeply connective way.

Sexual Wellness Travel

Sexual wellness retreats are a fast-growing industry, designed to foster rest, sexual exploration, and emotional connection. Psychosexual therapist Kate Moyle notes that in 2024, sexual wellness will continue to move into the mainstream, creating more open conversations about intimacy and empowering individuals to discover their desires. From workshops to relaxation retreats, these experiences help people connect to themselves and their partners in enriching ways.

As 2024 approaches, so does a wave of fresh perspectives on intimacy and pleasure. Explore and embrace these trends as they suit you, and let desire and discernment guide your journey. Here’s to an exciting year of self-discovery and connection!